Unexpected Gifts

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Once or twice a year I’m reminded powerfully why writing and sharing our stories is so important. Usually the reminder is in the form of an email sent by a stranger. I can’t express what these unexpected gifts in my inbox mean to me. They often seem to come at a time when I need them most. 

I received one in January from a reader who’d discovered an essay I’d written in 2017. The essay, published in Motherwell magazine, described the period in parenthood when one of your children begins to outgrow the other. When I wrote the piece, my daughter was fourteen and my son was nine. She was navigating high school, he was still in elementary. Their once-shared path through childhood had diverged. 

Readers left comments throughout the years—sometimes older siblings, sometimes younger ones—each quietly devastating. But the email I received last month was from a mother. She was going through the same dilemma with her children, who were around the same age as mine were all those years ago. It was the most heartbreaking time she’d experienced in parenthood so far, she said. She wanted to know how it had turned out with my kids, who are now adults. 

It took me nearly an hour to draft my response. I wanted to say the right things. I wanted to acknowledge the fact that she’d reached out with a very personal story and let herself be vulnerable. Mostly, I wanted to give her hope.

Just like her email had given me hope. That we need each other’s stories. That they’re worth writing. That capturing something painful and sharing it can, nearly a decade later, continue to help others feel a little less alone. 

Creativity, Connection, and Hope

Crescent Ballroom in Phoenix

Before setting new goals, it’s important to look back at accomplishments and take a moment to celebrate them. I didn’t do everything I wanted to do in 2025, but I held on to my publishing streak (thirteen years running!) and restored the balance in my writing life that I’d vowed to focus on this time last year.

In that post from what feels like a lifetime ago, I wrote about the fact that I’d spent a year focused on my cozy mystery series and I needed space to imagine whole new stories, time to edit, publish, market, write, and time to just dream.

Mission accomplished. My writing stats from 2025 include drafting four new stories and one new essay, adding over 10,000 words to my current novel, blogging every month (except May), submitting work to three literary magazines (one successfully!), entering a contest, publishing a new motherhood piece, and performing in a spoken word event in December.

The last one is particularly meaningful. In April, I talked about the importance of having a writing community and how I felt I’d lost mine. Not being on social media makes it difficult not only to keep in touch with others but also to stay in-the-know about literary events. I hadn’t stood on a stage and read my work to an audience in over seven years.

In keeping with my resolution to stay more connected, I reached out to some old friends via email and was happily invited to participate in Bar Flies’ annual Eating Christmas public reading at Crescent Ballroom. It was lovely to see familiar faces and hear amazing stories, and to feel those once-familiar butterflies as I crossed the stage holding the pages of my new essay.

I have high hopes for 2026. I hope to stay connected, and to cross more stages. I hope to stay creative, and to write my heart out. There are so many stories to tell. Along the way, I’ll post here once a month and keep you updated. You didn’t think I was going to forget that, did you?

Beginnings and Endings

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Twenty twenty-five was a year of new beginnings, and of endings.

It was the year I turned fifty. The year my daughter graduated from college. It was the year my son graduated from high school and moved away for college. It was the year I stopped writing, then started again. It was the year my mother died.

There are months I barely remember, that already seem a world away. I drifted through them like a ghost. Other months I raced through, checking days off on the calendar, desperate to put them behind me.

There were months that started to feel normal, until I realized I didn’t know what normal was anymore.

And through it all, there was a line I wrote in the first fragile attempt to write about the unimaginable: The first real loss changes everything.

Maybe in 2026 I will follow that line to its end. Maybe I’ll just leave it as is.

An Early Christmas Gift

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‘Tis the season to be grateful, and this November I have an extra-special reason: I was thrilled to receive an invitation to read an essay at the annual Bar Flies: Eating Christmas event!

On December 10, I’ll be taking the stage with some of my favorite Valley writers, including Robrt Pela and Amy Silverman, and sharing a true holiday-themed story.

If you’d care to join us at Crescent Ballroom in Phoenix and enjoy some great stories, music, and drinks, get your tickets now! It would mean the world to me to see you there.

Happy Holidays, everyone!

5 New Spooky Reads for Fall

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It’s been raining for weeks, I’ve been lost in the luxurious limbo of Fall Break, and there’s never been a better time to share spooky book recommendations. Here are five new releases that are perfect for autumn.

The Bewitching by Silvia Moreno-Garcia

Silvia Moreno-Garcia bewitched us all with her 2020 breakout novel Mexican Gothic. The prolific and versatile author’s newest is a multigenerational horror story filled with magic, mystery, witches, and Moreno-Garcia’s sublime prose. Definitely an October story.

Wake the Wild Creatures by Nova Ren Suma

Nova Ren Suma fans, like myself, have to wait a long time between novels, but the wait is always worth it. Suma’s latest involves a mysterious mountain refuge for women, a fierce teenage girl fighting her way home, and the uneasy sense that not all is what it seems.

The Witch Who Never Was by Carrie Ann Lahain

If you’re familiar with my blog, you’re well acquainted with the work of my critique partner, Carrie Ann Lahain. Carrie has written everything from historical fiction to the zombie apocalypse, but her series The Witches of Port St. John seems particularly relevant this time of year, and the latest just came out. Perfect timing!

The Possession of Alba Díaz by Isabel Cañas

Isabel Cañas debuted in 2022 with her critically acclaimed novel, The Hacienda. If you happened to miss it, now’s a good time to get to know this author’s work. Start with her feature interview in the October edition of Writer’s Digest, and then add her new release to your fall reading list. It has romance, demonic possession, and a haunted Mexican silver mine. What more could you want?

Bury Our Bones in the Midnight Soil by V. E. Schwab

It seems with every new novel, V.E. Schwab gets even more ambitious. Bury Our Bones in the Midnight Soil is no exception. A sprawling gothic fantasy featuring toxic lesbian vampires and dark romance? Sounds like a great way to spend a few rainy autumn days.

Happy reading, everyone, and have a safe and fun Halloween!

Don’t Hide Your Dreams Away

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A few years ago I was cleaning out my closet and decided to dedicate a shelf to my writing. I dusted off my Fourth Wall poster board and stood it upright. I unpacked boxes of author’s copies of the books I’d published and lined them up with the poster. Next to those I added all of the anthologies I’ve been featured in over the years. 

It never occurred to me why I’d chosen a shelf in the closet.

When a local author shared a photo recently of an entire bookshelf she’d devoted to her own novels, I stared at the picture in wonder. I felt a surge of happiness for her—what a beautiful tribute to her accomplishments!—and then I felt a crush of sadness for me. Why had I chosen a shelf in my closet?

Failing to celebrate our achievements is unfortunately all too common. Perhaps it’s an effort to be humble that makes us silence our own success. Humble is a complicated word, however. Synonyms range from respectful to submissive. From deferential to insignificant. Gemini’s oddly poetic definition is “to be not proud.” 

But I am proud. I just need to get better at showing it.

So last weekend, I emptied the shelf in my closet and dusted off that poster board again. Then I rearranged my bedroom bookshelves and created a prominent display of my published work. It’s one of the first things I see in the morning when I wake up, in the afternoon when I get home, and at night before I drift off to sleep.

It’s a start.

 

(Book) Size Matters

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In February, ReaderLink, one of the biggest book distributors in the US, announced they will stop distributing mass market paperbacks at the end of the year. Up to seventy percent of mass market paperback sales in the US are sold by ReaderLink’s customers, including Kroger and Walmart. And, with the exception of classics and cozy mysteries, it doesn’t look as if the Big Five publishers or major retailers like Barnes & Noble will do much to save the dying format.

I’m so bummed about this. The mass market paperback size has always been my favorite. I get it: they’re cheap, and you get what you pay for. They’re not beautiful and shiny like hardcovers, their paper and binding aren’t as high quality as trade paperbacks. Their pages will yellow, their spines will crack.

And these are just a few reasons why I love them.

Mass market paperbacks are meant to be consumed. They’re happy to go everywhere with you—the doctor’s office, the salon, the airport. They don’t mind being shoved into an oversized coat pocket or a small handbag. You can even dog-ear their pages; they like being well-loved and they love when it shows.

The lower cost of the mass market paperback makes them a low-risk buy. I’ve discovered many an author by browsing the horror, romance, and mystery shelves at big box stores and used bookstores alike. Cool cover, interesting blurb? Sure, it’s six bucks. Why not? Think I’m going to take that chance on a thirty dollar hardcover, or even a seventeen dollar trade paperback? No way.

Speaking of trade paperbacks, I’m sorry, but they are just too darn big. I cannot comfortably read a trade paperback in bed, which is where I love to read most. I like to snuggle up on my side with my head on the pillow and lose myself in a story, but with a trade paperback the book is always trying to flop closed, and I can’t see both pages at once. And hard covers aren’t comfortable to read anywhere.

Maybe I’m biased. So many of the books I grew up reading were mass market paperbacks. But there are some genres that were meant for the smaller size. You know when you’re walking through Barnes & Noble during the holiday season and you see those cute little Christmas romances on the endcap displays? It just won’t be the same when they’re supersized to a six by nine format.

Still, I guess us pocket book lovers will have to get used to it.

As long as they don’t come for our cozy mysteries.

Read “Driving Lessons” in Five Minute Lit

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My son turned eighteen on May 28, the same day this piece was published in Five Minute Lit. Another year gone by. Another milestone. They are adding up to one long road, and it’s sure to be a little lonely. Such is parenthood.

As always, thanks for reading.

Blogging Like It’s 2009

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The owner of WiDo Publishing, Karen Jones Gowen, recently shared a post lamenting the absence of writer blogs, which were once so prevalent in our community. The sense of loss expressed in Gowen’s post is relatable; I think many of us miss visiting other authors’ personal blogs that chartered their journeys and processes. In exploring this topic, Gowen presents a list of questions she’d like to ask her fellow writers, the kinds of questions so often answered in those blogs of old. With her permission, I’ve copied the questions and answered them below, and any writer reading this is invited to do the same!  

Karen Jones Gowen and her family established WiDo Publishing in 2007 and have released over one hundred titles (including this one by yours truly). She is the author of eight books herself, which you can find here

Are you excited about the idea of people reading your work, or would you rather keep it private? 

I’m excited about people reading my work! It wasn’t always that way though. Before I published anything, I kept all of my work private. I was insecure about sharing my writing, afraid I only thought I was a good writer. The imposter syndrome was real. Then I took a workshop, and the positive and encouraging responses I received from my fellow workshoppers boosted my confidence. I began publishing regularly at that point. 

Do you have an audience in mind when you write?

Usually, no. When I’m drafting, I try to stay true to my own ideas and not let things like marketability get in the way. Once you start thinking about an audience, you start editing yourself, and editing shouldn’t be a part of the drafting process. 

Have you always wanted to write a book? 

Yes! From the time I was little, I imagined myself as an author. I was a child who loved to read, loved stories and disappearing into my own imagination. I filled countless notebooks with poems, short stories, and the beginnings of many novels. Finally, in my thirties, I wrote my first book, and a few years later WiDo Publishing offered me a contract.

If you have written your book, do you feel satisfied with it or discouraged and disappointed?

I’m proud of every book I’ve written. Last year, I reread my debut, The Fourth Wall, wondering if I’d feel differently about it as it was released ten years ago. But I still love it. There’s nothing I would do differently. I feel the same about my subsequent novels.

How many forms of writing do you like to do? For example, journaling, poetry, blogging, fiction, personal stories or memoir? 

All of the above! I journal daily, blog monthly, and have published numerous pieces of short fiction and memoir, along with several novels. 

Is your voice the same regardless of the format?

That’s an interesting question. Honestly, no. My cozy mystery novels have a different voice, as they’re written in a more commercially appealing way. They’re lighthearted and funny, whereas my usual work is more melancholy and literary. 

If you have published a book, what do you think determines how well it sells?

I wish I knew! I’ve never published a book that sold particularly well. Probably no one really knows what makes one book more successful than another in terms of sales. I think a lot of it is luck and timing. 

How do you feel about critical reviews? Do you shrug and move on or do they devastate you?

I don’t mind critical reviews at all. In fact, as a reader, I always check the 3-star reviews on books if I’m looking for an honest and well-rounded opinion. As a writer, I definitely prefer the 5-star reviews, but all are appreciated!   

Do you feel that book publishing only counts if it’s done in a certain way, such as through an agent or a particular publishing company?

Nope. Writing a book is a huge accomplishment, and whether it’s traditionally published or self-published, it’s something to be proud of. Everything counts.

No More NaNoWriMo

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This month’s post was supposed to be about reconnecting with the past. I’ve long been in search of a writing community, and recently I thought I’d found a solution. Remembering the excitement and the sense of belonging when participating in Camp NaNoWriMo years ago, I decided to join the April session. I’d set a goal of two pages per day for an edit on my current novel. I’d meet some new writer friends in my virtual tent. It’d be just like old times.

But, as my friend Carrie later said, everything has a lifespan.

Not being on social media, I miss a lot. I didn’t know about the controversies surrounding NaNoWriMo that had plagued the organization for years. Or that they were on the verge of collapse. I only realized it when I went back last month with the intent to set up my April project and found the site a shell of its former self. The pages weren’t easy to navigate, and the most recent activity on the forums was from 2023.

I searched around for articles on NaNoWriMo, catching up with the issues and the unfortunate downfall of what was once such a thriving and supportive writing community. Weeks later, on March 31, an email arrived from the beleagured nonprofit announcing their forthcoming closure.

Another chapter over.

In February I wrote about the shuttering of Amazon’s once promising serialized storytelling platform, Kindle Vella. And I’m beginning to sense a theme to 2025. It feels like so much is ending. Maybe it’s just my nostalgic nature. While the closure of a few writerly sites might not seem like much, to me it’s two more severed threads to a time I look back on with fondness, and a little regret.

I wish I’d connected more with these literary communities when they were still around. I wish I’d worked harder to grow the friendships with people I met in those fleeting spaces. Yet all I can do is keep trying to find new spaces. Because the past is gone.